After almost 12 years together, I can honestly say that being in a relationship is one of the most powerful spiritual practices I know.
Being in relationship with Wouter for so many years has helped me grow so much, both as an individual and as a couple. Our relationship has always shown me where I’m not fully authentic, where I try to avoid responsibility, and where I close my heart to curiosity, play, and love.
We chose to see every challenge as an invitation. To learn from what our relationship brings up rather than run from it. To grow together, even when it’s uncomfortable.
I want to share with you the 3 qualities I’ve discovered over the years that make all the difference in my life and in our relationship. They are my golden compass when things feel stuck or disconnected.
- ✨ Authenticity – Dare to be real, even when it’s uncomfortable. True intimacy starts when we drop the masks and show up honestly with what’s alive inside of us. Be transparent about your likes,dislikes, fears, flaws, needs, desires and dreams. This is the only way your partner can truly get to know you and learn to love all of you.
- ✨ Accountability – Instead of blaming or waiting for your partner to change, take responsibility for your part. Every moment is an invitation to grow, together and individually. Take ownership of your part. Instead of pointing fingers, ask, “What is this moment showing me about myself?” Or “What can I do to make things better?”
- ✨Curiosity – Stay open. Replace judgment with wonder. Stay curious about your partner, about love, about yourself. Ask questions, explore new things, keep discovering each other again and again. If
When we live these three, walls come down, hearts meet, love thrives.
A relationship can be our most powerful mirror.
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In May 2026 we are back with our Sacred Couple Retreat on Ibiza! If you and your partner are interested in joining us, reach out!
